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A 15 year old Ottawa boy took his life because he was constantly harrassed and bullied in school.

Tomorrow I am going to go to a Hamilton High School and I think I have to show these students the repercussions of their ignorant attempts at belittling children different from them.  15 years old is not entirely enough life to live before making the decision to end said life. That poor child.

It isn't just about being gay. Its about millions of kids who take their lives, and the lives of others because of a child who doesn't know how to properly contain their anger, hurt, resentment etc. and in turn lashes out at those whom he or she decides is weak and a good target.

I was bullied as a kid. I was overweight and continue to be so, and the taunting was unjust and horrific. I am still uncomfortable in my skin. Kids also made fun of other issues I had, but whatever I don't care to share is what I don't care to share.

I'm just saying I know how it feels like to be bullied. I am also not denying the fact that I may hav been on the edge of life or death a couple times too. But I always got pulled back. Where was this boys lifeline?

And this boy felt so alone, so isolated he felt the only way out was to end his life.  This shouldn't ever happen.

Why isn't this front page news?

Dear Mr. Hudak:


I want to let you know that I am ashamed to say I share the same province with you. After seeing this article, how your PC crowd just harassed and demoralized 10% of the people born in this world is beyond me. http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/toronto/story/2011/10/04/ontario-security-pc-candidate548.html

I realize that you do not agree with sex-education classed for 6 year olds, I get it. But this defamatory propaganda you’re spewing is proverbial dog crap. You are literally taking a stab at the LGBT community in every single sentence on your new ad. Every single sentence Mr. Hudak. We are all humans, no matter or colour, creed, race, and even sexuality. I myself am a straight married women working with LGBT communities across the GTA and South-Western Ontario and I am extremely sad to see that your PC’s would take this stance…even more disappointed that you yourself would then approve and back up this garbage.

Sexuality is so rampant these days, amongst even the youngest of children. If we can’t prevent them from being involved in sexual acts, we need to INFORM them. Let them know the dangers and provide them with the powerful knowledge to keep themselves safe and out of harm’s way. On the forefront of homophobia, biphobia and transphobia is the need to be INFORMED. Children need to understand that varying sexuality is NORMAL. The key to success is to be INFORMED. If you aren’t INFORMED you are IGNORANT. Have you noticed a pattern Mr. Hudak? INFORMATION IS POWER. Empower our youth to be the best they can be, no matter the skin they are in, the culture they come from, their sexuality or gender identity.

Your PC oppressive reign is coming to a halt and I will be at the forefront. If only you knew how passionate the LGBT community was, you’d rally behind them, use them to support your campaign. Bless Mr. Layton for being a man of knowledge and respect, seeing an opportunity and embracing it.

Hubris and superiority are not what I look for in a future leader. McGuinty may tax us, but you will demoralize us. I’ll pay for quality, where quality stands at the forefront. Apparently you will not.

I leave you with one final thought.

If you don't respect your fellow man, what kind of value do you have? To me? None. I am one of many Mr. Hudak.



Kala Bennett-Alexander

 
 
 
I totes sent this to the jerkface five seconds ago.

If I don't write this down I will totally lose my shit!

What the hell is this TIM HUDAK? How fucking homophobic is this?

I just can't believe a real person would put this shit out there on the agenda. What year do we live in? WHAT COUNTRY?

He says hes against sex ed for six year old. DUDE your not against sex ed for six year olds, YOUR AGAINST TEACHING CHILDREN ABOUT HOMOPHOBIA, BIPHOBIA and TRANSPHOBIA.  The only way to rid ourselves of these nasty phobias IS TO TALK ABOUT IT.  Teach our children right from wrong! 

Don't judge a book by its cover damn it!

WHAT IS WRONG WITH SOCIETY?! People are people. Doesn't matter who you sleep with at the end of the day, or what fucking gender you wanna be.

GOD this is vulgar but I can't say it any other way!

I AM SO GOING TO THE POLLS TONIGHT, AND IM VOTING NDP BITCHES.

Assignment 1: Theoretical Exploration of Oppression - LGBT Oppression in Canada

The people in the LGBT community have long since been oppressed by our society and still continue to experience societal heterosexism to this day. If this continues to occur it could have a lasting effect on the gay community, especially the youth currently exploring their sexual identification and if we do not start making changes it could result in more gay teen suicides.

Canada is considered to be one of the most advanced societies in the Western hemisphere with respect to the gay rights movement (Hopkins, 2008), allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry in all provinces across Canada since 2005 and also awards the same rights and freedoms to gay couples in regard to marital disputes, divorce, child support, Canada Pension Plan and employee benefits as heterosexual couples would be entitled to. It is true that if contrasted against the rather sparse and unrepresented LGBT faction in the United States as a whole, Canada shines like no other, but some would argue that the idea of rights for the LGBT community looks nice on paper but the fact of the matter is years of oppression, marginalization and living in a heterosexist world have left the gay community fighting to keep gay youth safe both mentally and physically. With the rash of recent suicides committed by gay teenagers across North America it is clear to see that the oppression this community faces is becoming an unavoidable issue and must be addressed.

Oppression

According to the book Doing Anti-Oppressive Practice (Burns, D. 2007 p. 2) “Oppression takes place when a person acts or a policy is enacted unjustly against an individual or group because of their affiliation to a specific group. This includes depriving people of a way to make a fair living, to participate in all aspects of social life or to experience basic freedoms and human rights. It also includes imposing belief systems, values laws and ways of life on other groups through peaceful or violent means. Oppression can be external, as in the examples above, or internal, when groups start to believe and act as if the dominant belief system, values and life way is the best and exclusive reality. Internal oppression often involves self-hate, self-censorship, shame and disowning individual and cultural realities.”

The depth to which the LGBTTTIQQ community has been oppressed cannot be merely documented in a few short paragraphs. In Canada alone, before the 1980’s being gay was actually a chargeable offence resulting in death or life in prison and was also deemed to be a “mental illness” by the DSM-II up until 1973 (Spitzer, 1981).

In recent times the gay community has been rocked by violence, hatred and extreme oppression in the form of many unsolved murder investigations totaling 6 unsolved gay men murders in Toronto alone since 2001, the most recent happening in March 2011. (Mills, 2011). Safety of the gay community is absolutely paramount and by feeling they are in danger some find themselves afraid to venture out after dark, or alone, which is limiting them from enjoying the lives that others take for granted.

The fight to keep Gay Straight Alliances out of schools has also become a cause for concern as well noting that the Catholic District School Boards in Ontario are refusing gay teens the outlet of expression through GSA clubs. The light beyond the tunnel though is that some Catholic school boards in the region are recanting their refusal to allow GSA clubs, but in the form of SIDES an acronym for safety, inclusivity, diversity and equity in place of GSAs simply because they do not like the word “Gay” (Houston, 2011). In refusing the word “Gay” they are again limiting the rights of the gay community by simply not allowing them to identify themselves as who they are. The crossroads between Freedom of Religion and your basic human right to be gay is a very messy and touchy subject. You cannot make everyone happy because in one time or another someone’s toes are going to be stepped on, so is the contradiction of the human rights code.

It is the act of oppression that makes the youth in the gay community feel ostracized, marginalized and inadequate. They sometimes feel that they do not add up and that they never will. This kind of thinking leads to thoughts of suicide and sometimes attempted and successful suicide. At least 16 studies using convenience samples have reported rates of suicide attempts ranging from 20% to 53% (McDaniel et al., 2001; R. C. Savin-Williams, 2001)

Despite differences in rates, convenience-sample studies have found higher rates of suicide attempts among LGBT youth compared to heterosexual youth participants, especially among males (Goldsmith & Institute of Medicine (U.S.). Committee on Pathophysiology & Prevention of Adolescent & Adult Suicide., 2002; McDaniel et al., 2001; R.C. Savin-Williams, 2001).

Marginalization

According to the book Doing Anti-Oppressive Practice (Burns, D. 2007 p. 73) “Marginalization refers to the context in which those who experience inequality, injustice and exploitation because of their social location live their lives. It includes not just experiences of discrimination and lack of access to resources but also everyday experiences of being seen and treated as “less than”.

I have experienced the ups and downs of a close friend struggling with her sexual identity and living her life as openly gay. I can recall a simple shopping mall stroll with my husband, my friend and her partner, each couple holding hands and sharing conversation in the most normal way possible. But I could not help but notice the stares and vicious conversations going on as we passed the food court. There were people shaking their heads and furrowing their brows in disgust. It was at that moment I wondered if they were staring at me, if I was somehow distastefully dressed or impeding their lunch break. I later pieced together what was really happening, my friend and her partner being ostracized, quietly, but ostracized nonetheless.

My friend also told me of the woes within her community dealing with marginalization and ostracizing their own. She recounted the many stories she had heard from her other openly gay male friends, about a man’s distaste with another gay male and his effeminate nature (Roberts, 2011).

The LGBT community as a whole has been marginalized for many decades but within the community no other group receives more marginalization than gay men, particularly effeminate gay men. Not only do effeminate gay men experience marginalization on a societal level, they are also affected within their peer group as many other gay men will marginalize effeminate gay men most likely because they experienced stigmatization and marginalizing themselves earlier in life stemming from their own effeminacy (Taywaditep, 2001).

Ms. Roberts also told me on occasion that it is the marginalization that makes her feel less than adequate in society and that she feels the reason gay youth resort to suicide is because they feel inadequate within themselves, their community and their families. (Roberts, 2011).

Societal Heterosexism

Heterosexism is a term that describes an ideological system that denies, denigrates, and stigmatizes any non-heterosexual form of behavior, identity, relationship, or community (Herek, 1990). Using the term heterosexism highlights the similarities between antigay opinion and other forms of prejudice, such as racism and sexism.

In our society we have been taught that the world runs as both male and female together. Extension cords have both male and female parts, marriage is for male and female couples only, pink or blue, and finally Adam and Eve only.

Gay youth are coming out in a world where they are destined not to fit in. They go against “nature” according to society. They are sexually born into this world with adversity and unconformity at their backs and without community support and family support the likelihood of them succeeding and being healthy and productive is not high. The LGBT community when brought together can be a strong and accepting society, where you can feel appreciated and safe. Victimhood is not meant to come from this paper, as the old saying goes “strength in numbers” such is the fact that children that are supported are much more likely to succeed ( A Place of Our Own: Social & Emotional Development). The gay community is strong and essentially a community within a hostile community, but they need to know they can walk through a busy shopping mall with their partner hand in hand without being disrespected, or apply for survivor benefits when their partner dies without being met with malice and disrespect, all things heterosexuals take for granted.

Unintentional heterosexism happens everywhere. Even in the school classroom. A teacher may assume each of her students will bring a guest of the opposite sex to the school dance, unintentionally making the child that does not identify that way feel different and out casted. Even in daily life, when meeting someone new you may ask a new female friend if she has a boyfriend or husband, assuming she is of heterosexual nature, meaning no harm or judgment, but coming across as you do. This is because we are living in a society which is heterosexual in nature. As a society we need to realize that not everyone fits the “typical norm”, the ideal of the society we have been raised in and are shaped by.

In conclusion, LGBT youth need to have a strong support structure both at home and at school. In an ideal world we would be accepting of others differences and embrace each other the way that man was meant to do, but this society we live in does not always meet the needs of everyone. A bigger presence on television, the internet and in schools is a great way to get the ball rolling on eradicating homophobia for good and to help our LGBT youth come to terms with the society they live in and to provide them with the tools to fight back and to take a stand against heterosexism and oppression.

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By Kala Bennett-Alexander

January 26, 2011

Conservative Party of Canada
#1204 - 130 Albert Street
Ottawa, ON  K1P 5G4

Dear Prime Minister Harper:

This letter is meant to bring to your attention the plight of our Gay and Lesbian, Transgendered and Questioning residents in Canada.

I am a first year Social Service Work student at Sheridan College in Oakville, Ontario currently working on a LGBTTIQQ project researching community programs available to the LGBTTIQQ community. I was appalled to find out that, as a heterosexual married female I am offered mid-level health care, and I will admit I take it for granted—but to find out that services that specifically catered to the LGBTTIQQ community were cut off by your Conservative Government. Community non-profit organizations such as the Canadian Rainbow Health Coalition have laid off their entire staff members, because your government has decided the rights of Homosexual Canadians aren’t as important as the rest of us Heterosexuals.

Mr. Harper, I know your stance on Gay Rights, and you are entitled to your opinion, however off-track and misguided as your religious standpoints are; but that being said, who are you to decide that regular Homosexual taxpaying, law abiding citizens are not as valuable as his or her neighbour? Yes, you’re the Prime Minister, and congratulations on attaining that title, but people expect you to be unbiased and focused on the wellbeing of all Canadians, regardless of their sexual orientation, religion or colour.

I would like to remind you that 50 years ago African Canadians were in the same boat. Can you honestly say that such backward thinking as not providing Homosexuals the right to access health services that pertain to them is right? Is it politically correct? Is it fair?

No, it isn’t. There are many Women related health non-profit organizations that are still being funded, many Cancer related health non-profit organizations are still up and running, why choose to cut an entire area of health directed towards Canadian Homosexuals? I am not saying that the above mentioned non-profit organizations deserve funding cuts, but perhaps you would not look so one sided if you had spread the funding cuts across the entire spectrum of non-profit organizations, instead of focusing on one area. Or, perhaps you could have not cut funding at all? I’m sure we would have passed on the expensive Canadian Olympic opening act if it meant one group of people were to be singled out and oppressed.

I pay my taxes, I vote, I work hard, go to school, volunteer my time and I am a Heterosexual, and I believe the rights of Homosexuals are being infringed. I am the new wave of Canadian Mr. Harper, and you are in dangerous waters if you think your way of thinking is the way our great country is going.

I love my neighbour, whether or not he has a wife or a husband, reads a bible or Quran, wears a wig or a turban. Can you honestly say you do?

I do not expect a reply back, I do not even expect your eyes to view my argument, but consider this a warning that your way of life is coming to an end, that one day Canadian’s will rise up and open their minds to all individuals and accept all people as they are. Perhaps then we won’t need to fight wars and terrorism. Your point of view will be outdated. It’s up to you as a political figure to change with the times, to stay current. If you like your job, you will heed my warning.


Sincerely,


Kala Bennett-Alexander


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